Friday, April 20, 2012


I have come to realize that everything in its entirety revolves around some form of delicate balance. Whenever our energies are directed too far into one particular direction, there will inevitably be an inner discomfort to drive the needle back to center. Without maintaining the proper balance in everything that we do, we cannot properly exist.

Balance facilitates continuity. A steady flow of equilibrium must be maintained in order to maintain a steady cycle of harmony in the universe.

Tip the scale too far in one direction and the harmony is broken.

I believe it is for this reason that the general truth often lies somewhere in the middle.

In order to achieve and maintain this delicate balance, a clear vision of yourself and your behaviours must be established. I know that I have to keep taking a look at myself in order to identify these types of problems before they fester too greatly. The sooner I can catch them, the less difficulty there will be involved in restoring the balance to its true nature.

Failure to properly identify and cure any imbalance in its early stages can result in an even more severe imbalance as the stages progress.

Readily staying on guard for such a thing can be a difficult task. I believe that we sometimes kid ourselves into believing that we are living a balanced lifestyle when in reality we are not. This is not balance but instead is a form of psychological homeostasis which can easily fall under the guise of a balanced lifestyle. Sometimes, you just have to be honest with yourself and pay attention to that inner voice that is screaming at you to set things straight. It is said that the mind and body tend to resist change, so it is very easy to fall into a cycle of habits that are not constructive but actually detrimental, just to continue this steady flow of routine behaviour. So, the goal is to substitute these negative habits for positive ones and in the process not create a system shock that will resist the new behaviour entirely.

Yet, even though it is said that the change must be introduced gradually, I intend to challenge this theory with my own way of thinking. I believe that those resistant to change are the people that have not yet fully adapted to change as a way of life. The more flexible mind will be less resistant, and therefore better able to matriculate.

This is where versatility comes into play. It's very important to have the ability to roll with the punches. Quick adjustments will often be necessary which will most likely occur at the spur of the moment. Being flexible can make all of the difference in the world in these types of situations. So, it is very important to master the ability to bend but not break.

I’m sure that it may vary based on the individual, but I find the structure of my balance to be a basic trifecta:

Currently, I am drastically askew in all three areas. Each one affects the next, so letting even just one slip too far creates havoc in the entire sequence. I know that it is very important that I correct this imbalance immediately. To endure such a drastic change of this magnitude I will need to apply 100% percent focus to the effort. Therefore, I am severing ties with all of the outside influences that bring with them too many distractions, as I know the journey ahead will be a very difficult one.

Unfortunately, some friendships will have to be lost in the process due to this necessity. Handling peers can be a very significant factor in the struggle for balance. Lately, I find that I have been spreading myself a little too thin. Although I do my best, you just can’t please everybody all the time no matter how hard you try. At some point, the time will come when certain sacrifices will have to be made and if you don’t make the proper cuts then you may end up sacrificing a little too much or yourself. Perhaps, one day I will be able to re-establish these connections when I achieve the state of equilibrium that is sturdy enough to bear the brunt of human error without collapse. Until then, I will need to maintain complete focus as I fine-tune each of these levels to precision.

Finally, the ultimate challenge is finding the proper way to deal with and manage stress. One thing that I seem to have difficulty with, but must learn how to do is relax when necessary. It’s hard when there so much change involved in my life already. Most of the time, I have no clue what is going to happen next, and that in itself creates a steady flow of uneasiness, but I have to somehow find a way. I have been told many times, and I will myself admit to, that I can often be my very own worst enemy. Sometimes, I push myself so hard that I forget to just..
Balance is the key to harmony.


  1. Dan Hillman4/21/2012

    Knowing the problem can be half the battle,  I try to keep my life as simple as possible unfortunately the whole world seems contrived to complicate things unnecessarily.

  2. Carolyn4/21/2012

    Saying good bye to what were your dreams once ... is quite an endeavor. no quotes. no salves available. just raw emotions and nature. where did I come from. where am I going. and why. how did/do circumstances become so complicated. how do we complicate things. why do we make the decisions we do. why is that person in the car at the red light not me or she not me... how did we get to be who we are.

    haven't a freakin clue. accepting who I am has really been a journey. I'm still ... as I sit here looking out at the Fall River going by my motel window and listening to that wonderful babbling sound... wonder what's next.

    tiring... scary ... exciting ... sad ...

    doesn't take much for me to be happy ... then why aren't I. interesting scenario for me to ponder on this gorgeous beautiful day.

    maybe I won't ponder ... maybe I'll just peel and eat an orange and listen to the water. blank out my mind and ponder another day.

    best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your
    own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The
    gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible
    for the quality of it.

    This is the day your life really begins"
    ~Bob Moawad

  3. I've always suspected (and this post sort of confirms) that you're pretty good with graphics. =)

    I'm not sure how I feel about being balanced. I mean, I agree that it seems that we gravitate toward that, but is there really anything wrong with homeostasis? Every system (i.e., family) tends toward it, and even when change is made, a new "center" is established.

    And these thoughts aren't making much sense - sorry, I saw this post pre-coffee. =)

  4. Thanks. I play around with photoshop from time to time. Believe me I completely understand. I am no good without my daily dose of red bull.  I believe that we each have a core being. We can find a new center, but the further it drifts from that core being, the more detached we become from our true selves.   Homeostasis can be more closely associated with routine. There is strength in routine but it is a double-edged sword.  One might fall into a routine of cocaine use or alcoholism.  Often referred to as "functioning' alcoholics. They may seem to have found a routine that is functioning for them and in their minds they believe that they have a balance works. But in reality, they are still alcoholics. True balance should in no way be detrimental to your core being.

  5. We can ponder until the end of time but we we never know all of the answers, and maybe we weren't meant to. Maybe we were meant to just peel an orange and listen to the water fall and enjoy the gifts that are given to us, appreciating them for what they are.  I think our struggle for knowledge is often what brings us the most misery. Hence, the term "ignorance is bliss".  Knowledge is infinite, so the quest to know everything is quite a lofty goal. Then again, maybe it's not the destination, but the journey itself.  I know that I will never be all-knowing. Hell, I may never discover all there is to know about myself alone. But it doesn't stop me from trying.

  6. Amen to that, brother.

  7. Stress is my biggest enemy and my worst friend. It's been the biggest problem in my life. I have conquered it before but yet it still loves coming back to bite me hard when I think I'm doing ok.
    I detest the way it effects you physically it is so cruel and if I could have a spell to get rid of stress for everyone then I'd be very happy.
    Like you I've often been told I am my own worst enemy.
    I would say to you do anything you can to help with your stress or at least controlling it and tying it down, tie it so hard that it can't escape. I can't say to you enough to keep working at this journey of yours, to keep hope alive inside you. I would never wish how stress has effected me on anyone.
    You must please believe you can alter your way of thinking.
    I did but then I let too much effect me again.
    You are right, life is a journey not a destination. It may be a hard bloody horrible journey sometimes but I'm sure that it can also be a rewarding, loving and a golden sunset listening to the waves kind of journey too.
    Always believe, never give up, and keep smiling

  8. You're right it is a very tumultuous journey, plenty full of ups and downs.  Sometimes that golden sunset is the only thing that keeps me going. Thank you for the kind words and I hope that you are able to do the same.  Never give up.


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